Young people who are currently or will soon join the “lovers” team, if they can master the following points, it will help you avoid detours and quickly obtain love from your beloved
(1) Same family background
Calmly weigh the various objective conditions between you and your partner, and if there is not much difference between them, then continue talking; On the contrary, it is better to quit early. A lofty and unrealistic choice is highly likely to fail.
(2) Bold expression
When you have developed feelings of admiration for him or her and noticed that the other person also has such feelings, you should gather the courage early and boldly and cleverly express your feelings to the other person. This is the key to romantic relationships. Some young men and women have already fallen in love with each other, but because they have not publicly confessed their feelings for a long time, the other person is unable to confirm their true feelings for a long time. Once unexpected events arise, they will regret it for life.
(3) Seize the opportunity
To be a person, one should be honest and upright, and the same goes for dating. However, the meaning of “integrity and honesty” cannot be mechanically understood, as love and understanding are directly proportional. The deeper you love, the more you can fully understand each other. Therefore, when your foundation is not solid enough, it is not advisable to disclose some of your shortcomings and insignificant deficiencies to your beloved too early. People who introduce their strengths one, two, and three, and weaknesses one, two, and three at the beginning of a relationship rarely fail to report them.
(4) Be open-minded and magnanimous
Oppose extravagance and be stingy in love. Especially in the initial stage of communication, both parties should pay attention to maintaining a dignified and open-minded demeanor. Simplicity and frugality are undoubtedly virtues, but there are very few girls or boys who will initially like someone of the opposite sex who is wearing outdated clothes
(5) Moderate separation
Many people believe that the more contact there is, the deeper the relationship will be. So, they frequently went on dates, and each time they would end up enjoying themselves until midnight. In fact, from a psychological perspective, moderate separation can deepen each other’s love. “A small farewell is better than a newlywed” is this principle. Young people may want to try it: arrange fewer dates, often “retreat bravely” when the conversation is in full swing, and resolutely say goodbye when it is difficult to part. In this way, it will surely leave deep affection and lasting memories for the other party.
(6) Praise from behind
Some young people, out of genuine feelings, often cannot help but praise their beloved’s beauty, virtue, or many other virtues in person, but behind the scenes they are too shy to even mention their partner’s name. Smart people are often the opposite, not praising their loved ones in person, but often casually and sincerely praising them in front of their relatives and friends (without worrying about no one passing on the message). The practice of conveying one’s innermost thoughts through a third party is much more effective than praising oneself in person.
(7) Neither cold nor hot
Some young men and women in passionate love, afraid of being looked down upon by the other person and seen as frivolous, always suppress their emotions, showing excessive reserve, restraint, and even timidity; Others, however, blindly listen to the natural development of emotions, which can flow endlessly and become uncontrollable. Both of these methods are inadequate. Staying in the stage of ‘Do not move without proper etiquette’ for a long time is the love model of Taoists, which can easily cause misunderstandings and disappointment in the other party; The impulse to lose rationality not only makes the other person resentful, but also easily causes some uncultured people to develop a desire for novelty and disgust for the old after being satisfied. Even if combined, it can make married life dull. The correct approach should be: not “cold” or “hot”. From “cold” to “hot”, within a certain limit, rationally upgrade the caressing methods of both parties, so that the love process is always in a lively, healthy, and intoxicating state.
(8) Be considerate and attentive
Being considerate, caring, meticulous, and willing to make sacrifices for love is the most powerful link that can touch the other person’s heartstrings. My lover is sick, and you stand guard against the heavy rain. You use your only rain gear to prevent them from getting wet, but you are soaked in water yourself; If you suddenly give a birthday gift to someone you have forgotten about their birthday, and you have a few (even one) trump cards that have touched their heartstrings like this before, you can generally stand undefeated.
(9) Promote late romance
The stage of love should not be too long. Considering the reality in China, the possibility of early love and marriage (referring to marriages that meet the legal age limit) is unlikely. Some young people, due to early love, have to extend the stage of their relationship, forming a “marathon” style of love. Due to prolonged contact, they quickly see themselves as family members, and marriage has become less attractive and fresh for them. This is what people often refer to as’ exhaustion ‘, and this’ exhausted’ relationship is not only dull, but also fragile. Early love requires very little nourishment “(Romain Rolland). Similarly, maintaining a long-lasting relationship requires double nourishment. In this sense, advocating late romance is a wise and practical slogan.
(10) Learn a little bit of humor
Learning humorous and witty words will greatly help elevate emotions. Between lovers, in the midst of endless love words, a humorous and witty witty remark suddenly appears, which makes you feel that he or she is particularly cute and amiable. In the future, even if there are conflicts, you often cannot bear to leave (her) because he or she once said a witty remark that makes you laugh when you think of it. This is the power of humor.
