1. Love is a difficult struggle
Sweetheart’s mouth is hard. I have always hoped that you would do this. Men are born with it. You can also copy the man’s set directly!
Saying you like him and rely on him actually means you have money and capital. Skills are full of charm, and you can make your social business rich and interesting without him looking for you. Tell them how touched you are, but don’t completely believe it in your heart. Always strive for self-improvement and engage in high-quality social interactions. It is the unpredictability of human nature that leaves you with a way out. Secondly, let this man know your self-worth and social value, and he will become nervous about you.
2. Treat him like he treats you
This mirror rule must be followed. He treats you well, you treat him well, he treats you badly, and your kindness should be taken back immediately. Boys treat you well, don’t pretend to be indifferent. Boys are all crazy about you.
3. Be selfish and prioritize your own affairs
In addition to falling in love with him, your life also includes work, study, parents, socializing, becoming beautiful, earning money, hobbies, and so on, and these are all your priorities. Always put yourself first.
You don’t have to be him
Everyone can be sweet in love, but don’t use “behavior” to make a gesture of “what should I do without you” to a man. Because for women, the more you love yourself, the more others love you; The more you love a man, the more he loves himself.
5. Don’t always be bound by too many small rules when dating
Not fixated on details, firm in the face of big problems, principled, and intimidating, but in the face of small things, it is a mindset of ‘almost enough’. Such a girl is an advantage in any relationship.
The deterrent power of a woman actually depends on whether you can uphold your principles in the face of these big issues.
What if there is no sense of security in love?
This is the most commonly asked question by consultants.
When you have only one man in your eyes, you will be as anxious as a prisoner: when you have 100 men in your eyes, you will be like a queen, and you can always avoid getting rid of them. Even if you lose him, you can still choose a better person or a better life.
The so-called sense of security actually means having chips and the right to choose.
7. The best posture in emotions, neither humble nor arrogant
Smart women are neither submissive nor arrogant in their relationships, and they clearly have their own set of rules for dating.
Men say infatuated words, how much I love you, how important you are, how much I want to give you a home. Their reaction was very naive and they showed a deep belief. They won’t be sincere with each other, which ones are true and which ones are false. But their hearts were as bright as mirrors. Materially and emotionally, they will never let themselves get involved until the other person truly gives. They talk soft, do tough things, and speak hard.
8. Focusing too much on the outcome often leads to not being able to start a relationship
When I was sharing practical knowledge on my social media, I once said: Let go of the obsession of being together for a lifetime, and we can get along well for a lifetime.
So, we need to learn to use “screening thinking” instead of “discernment thinking”.
The ultimate goal of getting along with men is not necessarily to get married for love? You can also get some desired experiences and feelings from the other person, in order to understand the boy and experience the joy of love. Whether he can completely “settle” down and whether he can get married in the end are all surprises that come with it.
As for whether this man is serious enough, you don’t need to pay special attention. He is not serious today, but he may become serious tomorrow if he has the opportunity. If he still doesn’t take it seriously after spending some time together, he will never switch to another one again.
9. Follow human nature to date
That’s what I’ve been saying all along. Love is a sexy little game between people. Since everyone has a dark side, ‘almost enough’ is a very important mindset.
You don’t have to take 100% care of my emotions, that’s pretty much enough; You don’t need to be 100% completely honest with me, that’s pretty much enough; Things don’t have to go 100% according to the expected plan, it’s almost enough.
Many disappointments in relationships often come from high expectations and constant comparison. Challenging humanity is very dangerous. A bigger heart will make the relationship last. If we approach dating according to human nature, the other party will be more relaxed, and we will be happier and less disappointed.
What if I can’t forget someone?
To be honest, it’s unlikely. When I was in college, there was an aunt named Yang who cooked in the cafeteria. She was very kind to me and I really liked her. Later she left, but I wasn’t as sad as I had imagined because the new Aunt Wang treated me better, cared for me, and gave me a few extra spoons every time she cooked. From then on, I understood that what we need is never someone, but a kind of love. I just need an aunt who treats me well. She’s Aunt Wang, Aunt Li, and Aunt Yang, it doesn’t matter. So, you won’t forget someone, you just haven’t found a new and excellent person like them.
11. Never overestimate your weight in a man’s mind.
It’s really easy for women to fall in love: they will use ‘always being good to me’ as proof that ‘he continues to love me’. I don’t know if some men are just ‘habitual contributors’.
Perhaps he already feels that this relationship is not suitable. Perhaps it’s because your efforts didn’t receive the same return, perhaps after the passionate love period, you started to get tired, or maybe you just tried too hard to coax him ..
But he won’t easily express his opinion on you. (This is completely opposite to women) He will silently check and continue measuring until he lets go. When he reaches a certain level of balance and feels that it is “really inappropriate” or has a new goal, he will definitely leave you decisively.
You are still immersed in the illusion of ‘he loves me very much’ and ‘we are good’. Actually, he has already pulled it apart from here. They can’t be called scumbags, after all, they have actually put in effort. It can only be said that they are more realistic, self interested, and know how to hide themselves better.
The weakness of girls is that they always overestimate their weight in men’s minds. Their love for you is not as deep as you think.
Your high value is your eternal confidence.
How good you are is more important than how good you are to him. Don’t scare away men just because you’re good – what scares away is incompetence.
A low-level man.
If you are confident, excellent, fulfilled, and have self-esteem, there will naturally be excellent men who will go on to love you.
Strong people crave strength more.
13. Stay away from all short-term relationships.
When you encounter a man who is particularly charming but has a bad personality, treating emotions as a game and only wanting to make short-term choices, what you need to do is to screen him as soon as possible, rather than playing games with him. Don’t try to conquer him or not want to change him, even if you like him again.
How can a girl who doesn’t understand any tricks establish a good relationship?
The simplest method is to clarify what should not be done at each stage. What can’t be done?
When you first meet a boy, you should treat him with the mindset of an ordinary opposite sex friend. You can tease him, but you can’t make him special. Don’t have high expectations of him until he truly confesses his feelings.
Love is ambiguous. If a boy doesn’t give you a status or upgrade your relationship, you can’t let him enjoy the treatment that a boyfriend can enjoy. Don’t give him companionship that he shouldn’t have, and don’t do things he shouldn’t do, unless.
He takes this relationship seriously;
In interactions, if a boy makes two serious mistakes and then makes another one on the third, it’s not a mistake, but a choice. You must firmly screen him out. When you have a heart of stone, you will never soften and will not give others the opportunity to hurt you repeatedly.
The routine doesn’t work, I don’t know what to do, so it’s okay to control yourself from doing something, right? If you can’t do this at all, then it really has nothing to do with knowing the tricks.
How to feel comfortable and enjoy in love?
The answer is actually very simple: just don’t let men catch any of your weaknesses.
Overall, what are your weaknesses?
You are afraid that your relationship has no future.
2. Afraid that he doesn’t love you enough
You are afraid that he will leave you.
Once a person has a weakness, they are easily controlled by others.
As the master of love:
The outcome of the relationship is not important.
Whether he loves me 100% or not is not important.
Whether he will leave me or not is not important.
Most importantly, in my current romantic state, I am very happy and have gained a lot.
I never covet a relationship or a person. They have a strong mentality of ‘accepting all who come, accepting all who come’. Only absolute freedom can bring absolute happiness.
