Many men say that it’s really difficult to invite women. Every time they see online guides, it’s easy, but in practice, there are many loopholes, and women often act against common sense.
So after making one or two appointments, many men start to back down.
However, women may refuse. Have you ever thought of a reason?
Have you ever thought that blindly practicing online methods may not work? Is it because you are using them at the wrong time?
Why can many smart men invite women they like, but you can’t?
Perhaps you need to learn the techniques for smart men to invite women.
At the same time, women should also correctly identify invitations from good and bad men, otherwise it will lead to serious consequences.
Mr. Cao’s wife suddenly ran away from home. When Mr. Cao found her, he found that his wife was actually living with a male netizen and insisted on divorcing Mr. Cao.
What exactly happened?
Mr. Cao’s wife, Ms. Zhang, gave birth to a daughter after getting married. They were originally a happy family of three, but one day Ms. Zhang suddenly ran away from home and took away all the family’s savings.
Mr. Cao discovered Ms. Zhang’s ambiguous partner Mr. He through her chat records. I found Ms. Zhang, but I didn’t expect my wife to become Mr. He’s girlfriend.
Ms. Zhang said that she met Mr. He online and that living at Mr. He’s house was also voluntary. Now she expresses her intention to divorce her husband.
Ms. Zhang also said that Mr. He gave her warmth, and when she was sick, he would do his best to treat her. He often transferred money to herself to buy this and that.
Mr. He said he had been divorced for many years and met Ms. Zhang online. They got along very well and decided to be together.
Why did Ms. Zhang, regardless of her long-standing marital relationship and children, gradually walk towards the destruction of her marriage?
Originally, Mr. Cao’s wife was 5 years younger than him, and the two started their business from scratch. Afterwards, Mr. Cao took on business outside, while Ms. Zhang took care of the children at home. Mr. Cao was busy earning money and did not show enough concern for his wife, which inevitably led to her loneliness. Coupled with her simple nature, this allowed bad men to take advantage of the situation.
It can be seen that some men know that their partner has a partner, but ignore morality and law, use the guise of true love, and destroy other people’s families without caring, having no sense of shame, and no bottom line.
Women must also recognize the true purpose of bad men and not do ‘stupid things’.
However, it must be admitted that the efficiency of inviting women varies among different men. Some men are successful in inviting women and almost always succeed, while many men have gone through multiple invitations and find it difficult to find the right approach.
In fact, good men have not yet truly mastered the correct way for bad men to invite women, so you can only experiment repeatedly, hit the wall, and consume a small amount of fate.
Below are three tips for smart men to invite women. Once you learn them, women can’t help but ask you out in reverse. Single straight men must take a look.
01 Inviting from a woman’s perspective
If you want to invite from a woman’s perspective, you need to consider her thoughts, and dating must cater to her mood.
Where a woman wants to go, what she wants to eat, and what she wants to play, you must become a “worm” in her belly.
Since you are inviting a woman, you also need to understand her true intentions in her heart.
So, dating women can have unexpected effects. When dating you, women will immerse themselves in the process of dating, participate in it, and empathize with you.
How to understand a woman’s true intentions?
The first thing you need to do is to have a common topic in the early stages of establishing a connection, so that you can successfully invite women in the later stages.
For example, zodiac signs, food, tourism, pets, entertainment, fashion, and other fields are of great interest to most women.
Someone said, ‘I don’t know how to understand her interests and hobbies, so I can teach you a little trick.’.
You can carefully observe a woman’s social circle and see which areas she usually follows or posts updates on. This way, you can roughly understand her preferences and choose targeted topics to communicate with her happily.
For example, taking the topic of constellations as an example:
Man: “You make me feel like a Cancer (not asking directly, but using declarative sentences to speculate)
Female: “I am an Aries
Male: “Oh, Aries is very independent, has strong opinions, dares to love and hate, and suddenly feels a little scared (showing off first and then suppressing can arouse a woman’s curiosity)
Woman: “Haha, are you afraid I’ll bully you
Man: “It depends on whether you will be gentle and show mercy (setting mate selection criteria)
Don’t worry, I will be very gentle
Man: “After saying that I was very gentle, I picked up a big bucket of bottled water, right? (Just kidding to adjust the atmosphere)
Woman: “Haha, yes, it’s not difficult to climb up to the fifth floor in one breath
In this way, by incorporating personality analysis into simple zodiac topics, expressing one’s feelings, and successfully arousing the interest of women, while using combination techniques, one can grasp the initiative of chatting and bring women into their own topics.
02 Repeated invitations to establish a sense of security
At the beginning of an invitation, you may encounter a series of rejections from women, which is very normal, but it is difficult to refuse three times. If women start to agree to your invitation, then it will become easier for you to invite women in the future.
Remember the exposure effect, damn it, when you mess around, you have to fight relentlessly.
At the beginning, the rejection of you was not to make you think you were a cheap woman, but also to test your sincerity. If you give up, inviting women will become a pipe dream, and all your previous efforts will be in vain.
So after the first contact, you need to establish a sense of security with women. Women are naturally lacking in security, and if they are not sure that it is safe to come out with you, even if you are engaged in conversation, they will not easily show up for the appointment.
Sense of security is a profound and eternal topic. If you share similar values, experiences, and even future plans, your chances will be doubled.
What you need to do is to let women know more about you.
Anything that allows women to understand your topic can give them a sense of security. For example, your job, childhood experiences, future plans, setbacks encountered, current state, and so on.
The more information a woman knows about you, not only can it increase her sense of security towards you, but it can also make her feel that you are ambitious, that you are very genuine, and that her favorability towards you doubles.
For example, taking the topic presentation of work as an example:
Man: “Just finished the meeting, I suddenly forgot my words during the meeting, and the situation was very awkward (showing your work status and attitude)
Female: “Oh, it seems like he’s a small leader
Man: “I think hard work will pay off. Next month, I may become a big leader (demonstrating values and ambition)
Female: “Congratulations on that
Man: “Don’t just congratulate me, would you like to treat me to something delicious to celebrate when the time comes (vaguely inviting me)
Woman: “Haha, we’ll talk about it later. What would you like to eat
Man: “That’s great. My expectations are not very high either. I can personally enjoy what you made, even if it’s just a plate of vegetables (seize the opportunity to make ambiguous demands)
Woman: “How did you know I could cook.
Of course, in subsequent conversations, vague invitations such as “xx has new shops, when will we go together” can also be added.
A vague invitation at an unknown time can indirectly test a woman’s attitude towards dating. If you establish a sense of security, you can generally receive a positive response.
03 Be good at using reasonable excuses
When a woman is bored and receives a warm invitation from you, she may agree to go out with you to relax, or if a woman’s emotions are at a low point, then your invitation can help her change her mood.
At this point, your chances of success are relatively high.
When you ask a woman where she’s going, she usually doesn’t get a definite answer and will say “whatever”, so you can’t really be casual at this point.
You can patiently guide women’s words, listen to their voices, and prevent them from feeling lonely. Even if a woman is not in high spirits when going to an appointment, with your company, she will still dispel the clouds.
You have achieved heroic salvation in terms of spirit, and women will feel that you are very understanding and caring for them.
At this point, in order to successfully invite someone, you need a reasonable excuse.
After laying the groundwork for the previous conversation and gradually establishing a sense of security, you can use the content we talked about before as an excuse to say, “By the way, didn’t we talk about eating together at the newly opened xx store last time? You’re not busy lately, how about going to explore the store? ”
Then you can decide the specific date based on the woman’s plan.
For example, taking entertainment topics as an example:
Man: “I heard that a certain movie has been quite popular recently (hot movies have sparked discussions)
Woman: “I’ve heard about it too, but I haven’t had a chance to watch it yet
Man: “Haha, I knew you also liked watching this type of movie (fuzzy invitation)
Woman: “Yeah. Then we need to hurry up, don’t we? (We need to lay the groundwork in advance, so we can take the lead and ask the woman to invite you to watch a movie)
Man: “No, they’re all couples. How about we hold hands and pretend (looking forward to upgrading)
Female: “Haha, it depends on your performance
Male: “When are you free on Saturday and Sunday (let women do multiple-choice questions)
Woman: “I’ve made plans with my good friend on Saturday, let’s go on Sunday
Man: “Then let’s meet at 3pm on Sunday afternoon (to decide on the time and location, make an appointment in the afternoon, so that when the film ends, there may be a chance to have dinner together)
Okay, see you on Sunday
When many people invite you, it’s not that the woman doesn’t want to come, it’s just that she has a plan for the time you choose, so she rejects you.
So, you can carefully inquire about a woman’s schedule, such as “When are you available this week?” After receiving the answer, invite her when she is free. In that case, the success rate will be significantly increased.
Write at the end
The way smart men invite women out also has something worth learning from. Inviting women is not just a blind stroke of luck, but also has underlying logic. Only by learning the skills can the success rate of invitations be greatly increased.
